Currently, around 124.6 million adult Americans (50.2%) are single. This number was approximately 22% in 1950. Despite the increase in the number of people swiping right and using online dating sites, being single is more common than ever before.
If you’re currently hoping to settle down, you may be wondering exactly what women look for in a man. Luckily, we’ve done the research and can help you solve the mystery so you can finally understand what women are looking for.
Ready? Let’s get started.
What Women Really Want
When it comes to finding a partner, men tend to be much simpler than women. Women, however, tend to be a little more complicated. Some guys need some help understanding what women look for in a man. Here are a few things most women are hoping for in their partner:
Honesty
Most women are looking for a man that’s honest. Without honesty, there’s no way to build trust. Men hoping to settle down with that perfect woman will need to be honest and direct.
No woman wants to play games, and they’re not interested in trying to figure out if you’re telling the truth. Honesty is crucial from day one.
Attention
This doesn’t mean that women expect to have your attention every minute of every day. But they do want to feel cherished and special. Women love the little things that men do to make them feel good. This could mean complimenting her smile, noticing when she’s cut her hair, or leaving a note in the morning for when she wakes up.
Romance
Sure, it can’t always be chocolates and roses, and you probably won’t be making out continually throughout the day. Most women are juggling family, friends, and work responsibilities after all. Often, the romance seems to disappear once men are in a committed relationship.
Keep the romance alive with a weekly date night. Light a few candles, put on some nice music, or run a bath for the lady in your life.
Intelligence
While intelligence should never be flaunted (there are few things as unattractive as a guy who thinks he “knows it all”), it’s an attractive trait. When you come across as interesting and humble, you’ll find it much easier to charm the right woman.
If you’re an expert in a particular area, use it as an “I know about this and would love to show you” way, and not as an “I’m so much smarter than you” way.
Intelligence is sexy, and women like to learn from someone special.
Passion
Ask women who have just ended a relationship one of the main reasons the relationship fell apart and you’re likely to hear the word “passion” mentioned. Today, many women are looking for men who can take initiative both inside and outside of the bedroom.
Sex is important, and if you’re having issues in the bedroom or suffering from a low sex drive, you may want to check out this treatment. Even if you have a good sex life, women want that passion to continue outside the bedroom. Every woman wants to feel wanted, so asserting yourself sexually is a must.
Small physical touches like a stroke on the back or a kiss on the neck are important as well and will help keep the passion alive in your relationship.
Sense of Humor
One of the top traits women look for in a man? A sense of humor. Being funny simply makes you more attractive, and women are always looking for a man who can make them laugh.
This doesn’t mean you need to be continually cracking jokes. But being able to laugh at yourself is key. No one wants to be with someone who takes themselves too seriously.
Independence
Women want to be with someone who can take care of themselves. You’ll need to demonstrate that you’re independent and capable. That means making your own decisions, cooking yourself dinner, and paying your rent on time.
Women don’t want to be your mother, and it’s crucial that you can prove that you can carry your own weight (and your partner’s when necessary). It’s a definite turnoff when guys are in constant need of motivation, help, advice, companionship, and reassurance.
Communication
Women like to talk. A lot. Women speak approximately 20,000 words a day, which is 13,000 more than most men.
Your partner may know you love her but would appreciate hearing you say it too. So let her know you think she’s hot. Tell her she looks beautiful. It helps her feel confident and lets her know you can see the effort she has put in.
It’s also important to communicate when you’re not happy. There’s nothing more frustrating than hearing someone say they’re “fine” when they’re not fine. Women appreciate men who are great communicators and avoid being passive aggressive in the relationship.
Attractiveness
Just like men are attracted to good-looking women, the same goes for women. Keeping yourself groomed, staying in shape, wearing clothes that fit, and regularly bathing goes a long way.
This doesn’t mean you need to look like Brad Pitt. But staying on top of your personal hygiene and taking pride in your appearance will go a long way.
Are You What Women Look for in a Man?
What do you think of the above traits? Do you believe you can tick most of them off? Do you have what women look for in a man? Or are there some areas that you could improve?
Most women are happy to be with a man who is somewhat of a “fixer-upper” as long as he’s willing to focus on self-improvement. There’s nothing more unattractive than an unmotivated guy who’s happy with mediocracy.
Want to learn more about women? Check out some more of our relationship articles today.
Article by: Dale Harris Feb 12, 2018